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How Dare You be Offended At the Offensive! Right?


I think there’s some thing in the air or a bug manifested in the flood waters. Seems being outspoken is not something a certain fraction of our society, (lets call them Godayas for kicks) approve of for women. I was even told you shouldn’t be raising your voice, people look down on you for doing that! Like what? *insert a lol emoji of choosing*

In these godayas’ minds the logic is that any form of offense or how offended they are can be put into a meme and that’s freedom of speech, while speaking one’s mind freely against that is categorised as, “OH MY GOD SHE’S OFFENDED AT EVERYTHING, THESE FEMINAZIS!”

God Forbid should they question cultural norms! How dare they!

So let me get one thing straight, it is definitely ok to request to rape on a meme, it is definitely ok to use a child and call the child a hoe in a meme but definitely NOT ok being offended at it? Also it is an absolute no no to report such a meme! Right, got it!

I must be getting old!

Battling misogyny, misandry and bigotry isn’t a new thing in our  beautiful country. Nor is the cowardly backstabbing from hidden places than facing your differences with individuals directly. In fact when you approach them directly all that gall fades away and turns into nothing. This is the known truth and frankly most of us are over it already.


However the hardest pill to swallow is the women bringing other women down or enabling the misogyny even calling anyone who is offended at the misogyny feminazis. Irony is most of these ladies have at some point been offended of memes themselves of harassment of women or suffered at another girl’s hand trying to bring them down. Further they claim to prefer actually working to help those in need and when invited to join helping us with helping the marginalized, doesn’t really want to do that either. You know who you are!

I don’t get it, why be offended at being harassed in one meme and then go and enable harassment of another on different meme? Pick a side won’t you?

Speaking of sides, we also have many sitting on that proverbial fence, not doing anything to prevent it, but watching, liking and commenting quips. Like they watch standing on a  side while women get harassed on the street, doing nothing to intervene! It doesn’t affect you unless it is someone of yours hey?

You know what though? Us outspoken women that you think ought to shut up, will come and defend when one of yours fall and you will find the rest of your fence buddies, still on the fence, no longer your buddies and still doing nothing.

For that one girl who said, “I don’t see how “Goday” represents a group of unintelligent or unrefined people. I just think it reflects you as a human being if you think that actually is true”. Sweety, this is how!


In the case of the aversion to feminism and obsession with shit feminists say, I have asked time and time again how feminism represent something that creates such a phobia to it that you must use the word “Feminazi” also referred to as “Feminist 2.0”

The answers I get are the following (Feel free to add had I missed anything)

1. You are an SJW why are you wasting time online when there’s actual work you can do to help the community .

Well did you bother checking if we did or not?

2. You are a privileged high class person who have no idea of us bus traveling middle class people and struggles. Only know to fight online.

Actually we were busy working with women who are the bread winners of the family that ‘walks’ 5 miles to get to handloom factories on micro finance to self earn. We are busy organizing emergency rescues. We are busy working on legalities to bring actual justice to sexual abuse and domestic violence victims. Frankly, we are too busy trying to make it safer for entitled folks like you and women in your family to travel safely in that bus by creating conversation on street harassment.

3. Feminists are a joke because because they are more interested in parading nude and growing their armpit hair to make a statement.

Some women find it liberating to disrobe while others find empowerment in modesty. You live in a country where women walking around bare chests with just jewelry represented their aristocracy until we were colonialized and Victorianism were introduced. Are you still worshipping the Western ways then? You live in a country where everyone made a mockery of the president because he was offended at the “bra gate”.  Are you now agreeing with My3 that he was right to be offended? What is this hypocrisy? Live and let live is not a feminist concept. Nor is the concept of nudity. We have nudists’ beaches in Sri Lanka for heavens sake. If you don’t like it don’t worry about it. We don’t judge you for enjoying porn if you must. Emma Watson posed nude didn’t she? In your opinion she too is a feminazi?

4. Last but not the least, all feminists do is man hate.

First of all the exact definition of feminism in the Oxford dictionary is: The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. Women hardly have rights. The voting in Sri Lanka for women only passed through in 1931. We haven’t even been allowed to vote for a 100 years at least and don’t t get me started on the lack of human rights. Rights mothers don’t have for their own children etc.  Therefore anyone who does anything that is in search of superiority over men, is not feminism. It’s SEXISM! Don’t identify one with the other.


You don’t bother finding out the reality, instead you enjoy gobbling down the sensationalist stories because its easier to hate, than literally researching what MOST feminists do. Easy to conform and be sheep to patriarchal method oppression and have us feminists quiet and obedient.

The word available as the translation for Feminism in  Sinhala vocabulary is “ස්ත්‍රීවාදී ව්‍යාපාරය”(Sthreevaadee Vyapaaraya). So I see and understand the confusion among a lot of you because those who put down feminism take it straight out of what you’ve heard from our mother tongue and didn’t really bother looking up what that is. Because if we were translate to translate that word directly to English, it would be: “The Business of Misandry”. I guess your misreading of feminism is the fault of the person who translated it. I am willing to bet my socks it was a man who came up with it at the expense of being borderline sexist.


So while you were criticizing about feminist SJWs and feminists as a whole on being vocal on social media;

  • There were 10,000+ reported child abuse of which 2000+ were sexual harassments, 3000+ were of grave cruelty and 50+ cases of sexual exploitation.
  • Statutory Rape cases (victims are under the age of 16) risen up to 1600.
  • One woman is raped every 90 minutes and out of 300,000 cases only 600 get remanded every year.

MP Rosy Senanayake as the State minister in 2014

Force Feeding a Suffragette

So yes, just keep doing the pondering away of the dark humor in offense memes, and we will still keep raising our voices. You know why? Suffragettes were imprisoned and tortured to death for campaigning for voting rights. We can handle being verbally abused to be the voice for the under privileged and the marginalized who will not have a voice and whose voice you will never care to hear.

I have a voice, albeit condescending at times. But I know you hear it!

– jessiefer



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Your Momma Jokes, in the name of Racism

On days like today, where many people try to get through to me to get more info on disaster relief I check all my social media channels. One such check is checking the message requests on my Messenger.

Among the dozens of people who were concerned on how to help, was this one lonely message so eloquently written. Hiding behind an obvious fake profile with a cover pic of a Buddha statue no less.


This comes right after I decided to set one of my posts, where I’ve called a wolf in sheep’s clothing, a terrorist. I publicised the post as I mentioned there as well, because I had to unfriend an ignorant person from my friends list refusing to indulge him in his race bait conversation in the midst of more important matters to deal with; and he could go on ranting still not being on my friend list.
If this is the class that represents the populace that defends the terrorist to be a non-terrorist, I can understand why they seem to think setting buildings on fire is not terrorism.
They also seem to think by pointing their finger at others, what their extremism does becomes better. Don’t be the පරාල ඇණේ in your eye that only sees the අල්පෙනෙත්ත in the others’ eye.
So I have two sayings that I find are most relevant and surprise, surprise; have Buddhist references to as well.
1. Be the Change you wish to see in the world
Attànam eva pañhamam
patãrupe nivesaye
Ath’aññam anusàseyya
na kilisseyya paudito
      – Dhammapada
2. Violence begets violence
Dura balanna Langa nobalanna
Wairayen wairaya nosansinde
So what are you trying to protect with your extremisms and which is most important? Buddhism or being Sinhalese?
                                                 – jessiefer
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The Leak Factor 2017

premarital-sex-not funny

So a sex tape was leaked of a famous man and his wife in bed and the whole island is losing their shit!

News flash! Married couples do these things that’s how you and I are born. Any couple has the right to as long as they are of age of consent. If you are one of those people who are watching this and sharing it knowing the people involved giving the excuse of it being freely available, here are a few things you need to consider.

  1. Your parents or married siblings sleep in the house as you. If their door is unlocked during their consummation, do you peep in? Do you call your friends and neighbours to share in the peep show? After all it is freely accessible viewership for you.
  2. While you are busy making memes about the leak, did you even attempt to crucify or find out whomever that leaked the video?
  3. Did you forget that we still live in Sri Lanka where 2 inches above a girl’s knee is enough for some men to go fapping on the streets. This video will brand her a slut, regardless of the fact that she is married to the man. (I mean, for a country that tops the online Sex search list consecutively for the last few years; you’d think they’d have lost the novelty of it.)

In hindsight if this was leaked on purpose by the couple involved (highly unlikely), everyone sharing the video or any information, posts or tweets only add fuel to their agenda.

Basically the options you need to consider are either don’t share or don’t share! Albeit a fantasy I know, but a girl can hope.


– jessiefer

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Vesak Letter to the Pretend Devouts & Chathu Alahakoon


Vesak being the religious holiday (Holy Day) to Buddhists also means that it is the day when the “Vesak Buddhists” come out from under the fabled rocks (Christians call that kind the Sunday Christians).

What is their purpose you ask? To appear holy and religious during that couple of days in the month! Although rest of the year they continue on doing whatever it is that the Panchaseela (5 principals of peaceful coexistence), Madyama Prathipada (The middle path) and the Aarya Ashtaanga Marga (The noble eightfold path), advise them to abstain from.

There are four Brahma Viharanas (four sublime states) that Buddha has counseled his followers to adhere to in order to get into the path of purification. Namely Meththa, Muditha, Karuna and Upekkha. These 4 Brahma Viharanas are also represented in the 4 Bo (Fig) leaves that are in our National flag. Suggesting that Buddhists of this nation are followers of these 4 sublime states. Question is why these ‘Vesak Buddhists’ cannot even adhere to the expected guidelines on that one day they decide to be (for the lack of a better word), pious?


Upekka – is to be unwavering or to stay neutral in the face of the eight vicissitudes of life, also known as the eight worldly winds or eight worldly conditions (Ashta Loka Dhamma) : loss and gain, good-repute and ill-repute, praise and censure, and sorrow and happiness. (thank you wikipedia 😉 )

Upekka being one of the least demonstrated state of mind among these ‘Vesak Buddhists’. Their functions during the Vesak Season;
1. Being offended at how something was said because it was disrespectful for no apparent reason.
2. Being offended at the shape, colour and placement of Vesak lanterns, Pandols, Bhakhthi Geetha.
3. Being Experts on interpreting Buddhism (though the last time they checked a buddhist text was for O/L exams)
4. Spending copious amount of money on fuel, taxis etc. to visit Dansal because that is a rite of passage and not a remnant of what dansal was supposed to represent originally: feeding the hungry and homeless.
4. Tooting their gosh darn Motorcycle horns while speeding and blocking the traffic for everyone.

1. There are people in Meethotamulla still homeless.
2. The stray cats and dogs get kicked out for sniffing around the Dansal saucepans.
3. Women getting physically harrassed in the streets among crowds going Vesak sight seeing.
4. Rubbish thrown around all over roads while sight seeing that will amount to another mountain of garbage.

Who will be offended at that?

Chathu Alahakoon, you inspired this. Your following post and your unrelenting dismissiveness on how you continued to reduce a mere snapchat filter used by Melissa Dharmadasa into some religious battle didn’t stop by you simply privately messaging her. You also posted that as a status (which you changed privacy of, following the negative comments you received), then posted it again in a completely different status of someone else. So the only disrespect I see is the one that you displayed for your own faith.

I am not perfect and I have made more errors in my judgement than anybody I know in life. Still bullying someone for a disrespect you claim it to be and one that you can’t even explain why is beyond even me.

Are you just another Keyboard Warrior full of insecurity and hate waiting to be shed on someone a little bit more successful than you are? Or will you put aside your petty ‘tit bit anger’ as you put it and be offended at the real stuff and do something about it?

P.S. Ms. Alahakoon, if you can’t take it, don’t dish it! Don’t go crying victim when your unwarranted ignorance was the only Chip Thrill here.



– jessiefer

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The Flags of Division and Political Propaganda

(I don’t share or endorse the opinions expressed on the video itself)

In the eyes of the global population, Sri Lanka is having a conflict that is inflicting an ongoing humanitarian crisis. But how do we as the generation that was born in to, grown up with and lived their whole life in a war ridden country see it? Why are we expected to continue this rage between two races for another 26 years?

During the two and a half decades of war there was an immense number of casualties on both sides. This is no sudden newsflash, but why the sudden need for creating awareness when this age-old war is supposedly “coming to an end”?


It is wrong to use the state of the innocent victims of war in pictures regardless of their ethnicity, in public protests in order to fulfill political agendas.

As for the Sri Lankan diaspora; it is refreshing to know that you are patriotic and like to voice your opinion. Nonetheless have you personally seen the devastation these victims has to endure or try to actively do something about it with the time and money that you spent on these patriotic outcries? Maybe we all need a reality check to set our priorities right.

The people who suffer because of this war are not just the ones that are killed and tortured, but also the families that lose their sons and daughters at the frontline while the brains behind the whole operation fatten their bellies in their air-conditioned rooms.

If it is a real humanitarian appeal based protest, why the need to wave all these different flags? Why further encourage division of the country?


The victims don’t care which flag you are waving when you protest against genocide, may it be of the Tamil Eelam or of Sri Lanka in whole. All they need is a stop; an end to their suffering; the light at the end of the tunnel.

Our parents didn’t mind passing on the hatred to our generation. But we should take a stand and disown this violence that is about to be passed into another few decades breaking this chain of violence.

– jessiefer

*Originally written as an opinion piece for the Indus Age, Victoria representing D.SLIC of Deakin University, Burwood on 19/04/09. The opinion piece was written surrounding the ethnic protests surrounding the civil war that seemed to be escalating among Sri Lankan community in Melbourne.