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How Dare You be Offended At the Offensive! Right?


I think there’s some thing in the air or a bug manifested in the flood waters. Seems being outspoken is not something a certain fraction of our society, (lets call them Godayas for kicks) approve of for women. I was even told you shouldn’t be raising your voice, people look down on you for doing that! Like what? *insert a lol emoji of choosing*

In these godayas’ minds the logic is that any form of offense or how offended they are can be put into a meme and that’s freedom of speech, while speaking one’s mind freely against that is categorised as, “OH MY GOD SHE’S OFFENDED AT EVERYTHING, THESE FEMINAZIS!”

God Forbid should they question cultural norms! How dare they!

So let me get one thing straight, it is definitely ok to request to rape on a meme, it is definitely ok to use a child and call the child a hoe in a meme but definitely NOT ok being offended at it? Also it is an absolute no no to report such a meme! Right, got it!

I must be getting old!

Battling misogyny, misandry and bigotry isn’t a new thing in our  beautiful country. Nor is the cowardly backstabbing from hidden places than facing your differences with individuals directly. In fact when you approach them directly all that gall fades away and turns into nothing. This is the known truth and frankly most of us are over it already.


However the hardest pill to swallow is the women bringing other women down or enabling the misogyny even calling anyone who is offended at the misogyny feminazis. Irony is most of these ladies have at some point been offended of memes themselves of harassment of women or suffered at another girl’s hand trying to bring them down. Further they claim to prefer actually working to help those in need and when invited to join helping us with helping the marginalized, doesn’t really want to do that either. You know who you are!

I don’t get it, why be offended at being harassed in one meme and then go and enable harassment of another on different meme? Pick a side won’t you?

Speaking of sides, we also have many sitting on that proverbial fence, not doing anything to prevent it, but watching, liking and commenting quips. Like they watch standing on a  side while women get harassed on the street, doing nothing to intervene! It doesn’t affect you unless it is someone of yours hey?

You know what though? Us outspoken women that you think ought to shut up, will come and defend when one of yours fall and you will find the rest of your fence buddies, still on the fence, no longer your buddies and still doing nothing.

For that one girl who said, “I don’t see how “Goday” represents a group of unintelligent or unrefined people. I just think it reflects you as a human being if you think that actually is true”. Sweety, this is how!


In the case of the aversion to feminism and obsession with shit feminists say, I have asked time and time again how feminism represent something that creates such a phobia to it that you must use the word “Feminazi” also referred to as “Feminist 2.0”

The answers I get are the following (Feel free to add had I missed anything)

1. You are an SJW why are you wasting time online when there’s actual work you can do to help the community .

Well did you bother checking if we did or not?

2. You are a privileged high class person who have no idea of us bus traveling middle class people and struggles. Only know to fight online.

Actually we were busy working with women who are the bread winners of the family that ‘walks’ 5 miles to get to handloom factories on micro finance to self earn. We are busy organizing emergency rescues. We are busy working on legalities to bring actual justice to sexual abuse and domestic violence victims. Frankly, we are too busy trying to make it safer for entitled folks like you and women in your family to travel safely in that bus by creating conversation on street harassment.

3. Feminists are a joke because because they are more interested in parading nude and growing their armpit hair to make a statement.

Some women find it liberating to disrobe while others find empowerment in modesty. You live in a country where women walking around bare chests with just jewelry represented their aristocracy until we were colonialized and Victorianism were introduced. Are you still worshipping the Western ways then? You live in a country where everyone made a mockery of the president because he was offended at the “bra gate”.  Are you now agreeing with My3 that he was right to be offended? What is this hypocrisy? Live and let live is not a feminist concept. Nor is the concept of nudity. We have nudists’ beaches in Sri Lanka for heavens sake. If you don’t like it don’t worry about it. We don’t judge you for enjoying porn if you must. Emma Watson posed nude didn’t she? In your opinion she too is a feminazi?

4. Last but not the least, all feminists do is man hate.

First of all the exact definition of feminism in the Oxford dictionary is: The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. Women hardly have rights. The voting in Sri Lanka for women only passed through in 1931. We haven’t even been allowed to vote for a 100 years at least and don’t t get me started on the lack of human rights. Rights mothers don’t have for their own children etc.  Therefore anyone who does anything that is in search of superiority over men, is not feminism. It’s SEXISM! Don’t identify one with the other.


You don’t bother finding out the reality, instead you enjoy gobbling down the sensationalist stories because its easier to hate, than literally researching what MOST feminists do. Easy to conform and be sheep to patriarchal method oppression and have us feminists quiet and obedient.

The word available as the translation for Feminism in  Sinhala vocabulary is “ස්ත්‍රීවාදී ව්‍යාපාරය”(Sthreevaadee Vyapaaraya). So I see and understand the confusion among a lot of you because those who put down feminism take it straight out of what you’ve heard from our mother tongue and didn’t really bother looking up what that is. Because if we were translate to translate that word directly to English, it would be: “The Business of Misandry”. I guess your misreading of feminism is the fault of the person who translated it. I am willing to bet my socks it was a man who came up with it at the expense of being borderline sexist.


So while you were criticizing about feminist SJWs and feminists as a whole on being vocal on social media;

  • There were 10,000+ reported child abuse of which 2000+ were sexual harassments, 3000+ were of grave cruelty and 50+ cases of sexual exploitation.
  • Statutory Rape cases (victims are under the age of 16) risen up to 1600.
  • One woman is raped every 90 minutes and out of 300,000 cases only 600 get remanded every year.

MP Rosy Senanayake as the State minister in 2014

Force Feeding a Suffragette

So yes, just keep doing the pondering away of the dark humor in offense memes, and we will still keep raising our voices. You know why? Suffragettes were imprisoned and tortured to death for campaigning for voting rights. We can handle being verbally abused to be the voice for the under privileged and the marginalized who will not have a voice and whose voice you will never care to hear.

I have a voice, albeit condescending at times. But I know you hear it!

– jessiefer



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Your Momma Jokes, in the name of Racism

On days like today, where many people try to get through to me to get more info on disaster relief I check all my social media channels. One such check is checking the message requests on my Messenger.

Among the dozens of people who were concerned on how to help, was this one lonely message so eloquently written. Hiding behind an obvious fake profile with a cover pic of a Buddha statue no less.


This comes right after I decided to set one of my posts, where I’ve called a wolf in sheep’s clothing, a terrorist. I publicised the post as I mentioned there as well, because I had to unfriend an ignorant person from my friends list refusing to indulge him in his race bait conversation in the midst of more important matters to deal with; and he could go on ranting still not being on my friend list.
If this is the class that represents the populace that defends the terrorist to be a non-terrorist, I can understand why they seem to think setting buildings on fire is not terrorism.
They also seem to think by pointing their finger at others, what their extremism does becomes better. Don’t be the පරාල ඇණේ in your eye that only sees the අල්පෙනෙත්ත in the others’ eye.
So I have two sayings that I find are most relevant and surprise, surprise; have Buddhist references to as well.
1. Be the Change you wish to see in the world
Attànam eva pañhamam
patãrupe nivesaye
Ath’aññam anusàseyya
na kilisseyya paudito
      – Dhammapada
2. Violence begets violence
Dura balanna Langa nobalanna
Wairayen wairaya nosansinde
So what are you trying to protect with your extremisms and which is most important? Buddhism or being Sinhalese?
                                                 – jessiefer
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The Leak Factor 2017

premarital-sex-not funny

So a sex tape was leaked of a famous man and his wife in bed and the whole island is losing their shit!

News flash! Married couples do these things that’s how you and I are born. Any couple has the right to as long as they are of age of consent. If you are one of those people who are watching this and sharing it knowing the people involved giving the excuse of it being freely available, here are a few things you need to consider.

  1. Your parents or married siblings sleep in the house as you. If their door is unlocked during their consummation, do you peep in? Do you call your friends and neighbours to share in the peep show? After all it is freely accessible viewership for you.
  2. While you are busy making memes about the leak, did you even attempt to crucify or find out whomever that leaked the video?
  3. Did you forget that we still live in Sri Lanka where 2 inches above a girl’s knee is enough for some men to go fapping on the streets. This video will brand her a slut, regardless of the fact that she is married to the man. (I mean, for a country that tops the online Sex search list consecutively for the last few years; you’d think they’d have lost the novelty of it.)

In hindsight if this was leaked on purpose by the couple involved (highly unlikely), everyone sharing the video or any information, posts or tweets only add fuel to their agenda.

Basically the options you need to consider are either don’t share or don’t share! Albeit a fantasy I know, but a girl can hope.


– jessiefer

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Vesak Letter to the Pretend Devouts & Chathu Alahakoon


Vesak being the religious holiday (Holy Day) to Buddhists also means that it is the day when the “Vesak Buddhists” come out from under the fabled rocks (Christians call that kind the Sunday Christians).

What is their purpose you ask? To appear holy and religious during that couple of days in the month! Although rest of the year they continue on doing whatever it is that the Panchaseela (5 principals of peaceful coexistence), Madyama Prathipada (The middle path) and the Aarya Ashtaanga Marga (The noble eightfold path), advise them to abstain from.

There are four Brahma Viharanas (four sublime states) that Buddha has counseled his followers to adhere to in order to get into the path of purification. Namely Meththa, Muditha, Karuna and Upekkha. These 4 Brahma Viharanas are also represented in the 4 Bo (Fig) leaves that are in our National flag. Suggesting that Buddhists of this nation are followers of these 4 sublime states. Question is why these ‘Vesak Buddhists’ cannot even adhere to the expected guidelines on that one day they decide to be (for the lack of a better word), pious?


Upekka – is to be unwavering or to stay neutral in the face of the eight vicissitudes of life, also known as the eight worldly winds or eight worldly conditions (Ashta Loka Dhamma) : loss and gain, good-repute and ill-repute, praise and censure, and sorrow and happiness. (thank you wikipedia 😉 )

Upekka being one of the least demonstrated state of mind among these ‘Vesak Buddhists’. Their functions during the Vesak Season;
1. Being offended at how something was said because it was disrespectful for no apparent reason.
2. Being offended at the shape, colour and placement of Vesak lanterns, Pandols, Bhakhthi Geetha.
3. Being Experts on interpreting Buddhism (though the last time they checked a buddhist text was for O/L exams)
4. Spending copious amount of money on fuel, taxis etc. to visit Dansal because that is a rite of passage and not a remnant of what dansal was supposed to represent originally: feeding the hungry and homeless.
4. Tooting their gosh darn Motorcycle horns while speeding and blocking the traffic for everyone.

1. There are people in Meethotamulla still homeless.
2. The stray cats and dogs get kicked out for sniffing around the Dansal saucepans.
3. Women getting physically harrassed in the streets among crowds going Vesak sight seeing.
4. Rubbish thrown around all over roads while sight seeing that will amount to another mountain of garbage.

Who will be offended at that?

Chathu Alahakoon, you inspired this. Your following post and your unrelenting dismissiveness on how you continued to reduce a mere snapchat filter used by Melissa Dharmadasa into some religious battle didn’t stop by you simply privately messaging her. You also posted that as a status (which you changed privacy of, following the negative comments you received), then posted it again in a completely different status of someone else. So the only disrespect I see is the one that you displayed for your own faith.

I am not perfect and I have made more errors in my judgement than anybody I know in life. Still bullying someone for a disrespect you claim it to be and one that you can’t even explain why is beyond even me.

Are you just another Keyboard Warrior full of insecurity and hate waiting to be shed on someone a little bit more successful than you are? Or will you put aside your petty ‘tit bit anger’ as you put it and be offended at the real stuff and do something about it?

P.S. Ms. Alahakoon, if you can’t take it, don’t dish it! Don’t go crying victim when your unwarranted ignorance was the only Chip Thrill here.



– jessiefer

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Colour, Race, Another Wild Goose Chase?


On a rare sunny day in winter the sudden ‘swish’ of Frisbees flying over your head and the cheery laughter of many students lying on the green lawn letting their hair down is a common sight at the Burwood campus.

If you were to look deeper, beyond that bright surface you’ll find a certain grouping pattern among the students. A pattern that separates those students into visually distinct groups in contrast to the multi coloured tile groupings of Mutant Way.

Mutant Way, Deakin University
Mutant Way, Deakin University (2009 During Summer Holidays)

Home to 34,409 students in total, Deakin University is also haven to over 4074 students who are from different parts of the world to sum up the international sector of the student population.

Half of this colourful bunch consists of South East Asian students that speak another language more fluently than they do English.

The groups in which these future academics hang out together hardly looked multiculturally inviting in the most renowned multicultural city in Australia. While local students conversed with other groups of locals, there were other little groups of three, maybe four, that were Asian, Indian or African distinctively keeping to themselves.

Was this a choice, a timid behavior or a situation caused due to the uninviting demeanor of local students?

Was there an explanation as to why they found their own ethnic backgrounds too comfortable; to choose not to move with the local students? Perhaps it was some cultural restraints that were keeping the international students apart from the local students?

Jaimee Eastwood, a 2nd year Media and Communication student says, “there are certain stereotypes that come with international students that they are really smart and the ones that come from Melbourne are in it for the whole experience of ‘Uni life’.” Perhaps, the priorities of the two groups were distinct enough for them to have separate preferences.

She says she has noticed that students from other countries prefer to stick to groups of their own nationality and believes it is “comfort” that they seek in doing so.


In 2007 Nimedhi Katugampola, a Sri Lankan student then in her second year in Business went in for tryouts for the Deakin Dragons Basket Ball team. She was an indispensible asset in her high school basketball team in Sri Lanka.

However, she didn’t feel her standards were as good as the University’s already was since they had proved themselves well enough in Southern University Games.

It didn’t stop her feeling “being unnoticed” at the tryouts. She said, “Even after the try-outs I didn’t get feedback from them whether I was in or out.”

Some said they experienced uncomfortable situations with some lecturers who acted unfairly towards international students in their classes and “treated them as if they were a nuisance”.

Although the majority of the international students like Priyam Desai do not believe they are being victimised. She says, “I haven’t experienced any racial discrimination from my lecturers or in my classmates, but I know people who have.”


Bharat Ramakrishna a Melbourne University Medical student views this matter in a different perspective. He says, “The truth is people occasionally possess racist attitudes but exercise their views in accordance with the freedom of speech, and it’s hypocritical to think that we Indians get a raw deal”.

“After all how many of us have questionable views towards other international students, Asians and people who live in Dandenong?” he added with a more unbiased standpoint.

The issue of race-provoked violence towards international students has raised the media’s attention over the past couple of months following the rising number of attacks on Indian students in Melbourne.

Federation of Indian Students of Australia secretary Gautam Gupta had mentioned to the media that he knew eight cases of Indian students in Melbourne who were victims of racist assaults and that two of them have returned back home fearing for their safety.

In comparison to the severity of the above incidents, international students of Deakin University are lucky to be able to feel safe with no threat of bodily harm thanks to the constant rights lobbying and student advocacy promoted by Deakin University Student Association (DUSA) in concert with the Deakin Sri Lankan & Indian Club (D.SLIC). Furthermore, the very supportive stance of the university’s administration is a major benefit; allowing improvements to be made as fast as possible.


This issue is definitely open to debate; in fact the Pro-Vice Chancellor, Phillip Clarke met with executives of D.SLIC on the 27th May to listen to such concerns of the South-Asian student population. Some key concerns raised were more lighting in a few locations on campus, more on-campus vegetarian/halal food outlets, increased semester workload and the need for an awareness campaign of the significant assistance that Deakin provides for its student’s safety. Preeti Sharma, a 1st year law student, had “no idea” that Deakin security could walk her to the car at night.

Either way, considering that the international students are thousands of miles away from their homes and their comfort zones; it is natural for them to feel awkward in unfamiliar situations thrown at them. Therefore, it is important to be sensitive to their social conduct by putting yourselves in their shoes.

                                                                                                                 – jessiefer 

*Originally written on the 20/05/09 for for the Indus Age, Victoria representing D.SLIC of Deakin University, Burwood. There was a debate on how this would implicate the University and how its inclusivity policies may be represented at the time.